baby carseats and life at nautilus teachings

 

i am unbuckling
my grandson
from his car seat.
he is sound asleep
his pacifier
has fallen from his
tiny lips
as i struggle
to push the button
unlock
release
let the two side pieces
fall free
before i can
unclasp the middle button
protecting his chest
then slowly peel away
the shoulder harness
lift him gently up
all while trying not to wake him
from his much needed nap…
yes,
he may open his eyes
yes,
i will plug in his ‘binky’
lay him in the cool dark room
with his babies
cover his tiny form
kiss his head
whisper
‘nye, nye’
and quietly exit
his room
knowing
for a moment
maybe an hour
i have some time to
exhale
refocus
and begin
something
anything
the laundry
dinner
writing
paint
read
or in some cases
take a nap tooooooooo!
this
unbuckling
the whole silly process
teaches me
how the simple
over the head
across the waist
one click you are done
with strapping your kid in
is a lost art-
because today
the child needs to be rear facing
until they are 2 years old or 40lbs
and generally some kind of booster
until between 8-12 years
WTF?
my kids
were never rear facing,
were in a booster at 2
and out of it before kindergarten…
with cars being safer
this granny does not understand
sounds like an insurance scam to me…
what if a child is short and tiny
like the rest of their family
does this mean they have to be
in a booster seat until they can drive?
wow!

life is like this
only it’s an unwinding
an untethering
of the threads
which bind us to
our moms
our lives
our friends…
we cannot possibly
or realistically
attach to
hundreds of people
all at the same time
we need
those few strong strands
faith
hope
love
to keep us
flexible
smoothly
harnessed
to our chosen path
for the rest of our lives…

there it is!

just like the car seat…

i don’t ever want to endanger
my grandsons life
so if he needs a carseat
until he is 12
then
BAM
he will be in one!
i don’t ever want to be
disconnected
from my faith
family
friends
so i pray
practice
gratitude
and kindness
every day
and ultimately
try to always be
a good human…

BUT
as my hubby and i agree
all people fail
we are not meant to
be perfect…
so when my grandson
years from now,
looks at me with those
big, blue, gorgeous
pleading eyes of an 8 year old
and says,
‘ya know granny, mom and dad
just let me wear the seat belt…’
will i do the same?
well,
if he’s tall enough
and the strap hits him right
YES!
otherwise
i will smile at him
tell him i love him
and say,
‘i promise no one will see
you in that booster seat
we will park a block away and walk
to the baseball game!’
while i pass him back
his favorite
he only eats it at granny’s-
‘secret treat’
whatever that may be!

i have already
failed
most of the people
who love me
in some way.
i have also apologized
and asked for forgiveness…
all of which was granted
because this is what we do
we protect those we love
we understand
we
fail
we get that we have
bad days
weeks
even months
depending upon the struggle
but we don’t leave
just like we follow
the law for carseats…

“Children between the ages of 3 and 4 who are at least 40 pounds are good candidates for booster seats as long as the lap and shoulder belt fits properly when the child is seated.”

my grandson
has no decisions
in his life
YET.
sure he cries
when he’s hungry
tired
or needs a diaper changed
you can take him
just about anywhere
and he is calm as a cucumber
with a side dish
of mini stranger danger
already surfacing…
like most grandparents
we remember the old days
when our kids were little-
curly golden locks
tiny toes
needing us so much
we did anything and
everything for them..
we taught them to be
adaptable
to form their own ideas
we gave them a solid
faith foundation
taught them right from wrong
held them accountable
loved every
rotten stinky lovable inch of them…
as a grandmother
i will do the same
which is why whenever
i go anywhere with
my grandson
i add an extra 15 min
to each journey
just to get him in and out
of the carseat
and God help me
if i have to set up a stroller
buckle him in
not to mention try to figure out
how to get that dang stroller folded once more…
but every time i unbuckle
and rebuckle
i unravel love for him
knowing he is protected
and safe,
just in case…
each day as i set
him in his daddy’s arms
i reel tightly in
every first
we had that day
all the smiles
the giggles
and the hopes
that one day soon
someone
somewhere
will create
a car
that has automatic
baby seats
locking him in
with a push of
just one button !