holding hands at nautilus teachings


one of our
favorite things to do
when we are in the car
is to hold hands…
i love this small gesture,
it’s a time when
conversation is minimal
and we both tend
to sing a little too loud
with the music
always leaving
us giggling.
with d’s loosing
his muscle mass in his
right leg do to the
surgery and 6 weeks
being in a cast
skin has become
a big topic in our home…
his skin is saggy
and peeling now
that the cast is off,
it will just take time
for him to build it back up
to solid muscle
but until that time
we laugh and giggle about
all our sagging,
wrinkled skin.
so, yesterday
as we were holding hands
as he drove the car,
i noticed my veiny hands
which look just like my mothers
and underneath mine
was his freckled, soft hand.
we both have these
creased wrinkles
and our skin appears
to never have enough
no matter how much water
we drink or lotion
we apply…

it’s just part of aging.
yesterday d said,
“i can’t believe i’m 64,
i don’t feel like it…”
i replied with,
“i know baby, nor do i feel 54…”
we both smiled
and belted out
shania twains words,
“man i feel like a woman…”
then we laughed
til i thought i was going
to wet my pants…
our hands hold so much.
we use them every day
to clean, create, write, type
but mostly we use
them to wipe away tears
to wave hello
and to hold the people
we love…
with all this work they do,
it’s no wonder
they are getting a bit wrinkly…

when my father was 83
his skin began to
break out in random hives,
the last one,
who was also the youngest
of his physicians said,
“ya know, Mr. Schultz
you have been wearing that skin
for a long time now,
maybe it’s just time
to let it throw its temper tantrum…”
my dad
released a small laugh,
shook his head
and replied,
“yeah, i guess you’re right
but i can’t send it to it’s room
like i did with my kids when
they were young…”
our skin is going to
hang from places we never expected.
statistics show, we shrink
and with that our skin will sag:

Most of us lose at least one-third of an inch (1 cm) in height every decade after the age of 40. By 80, most men will be 2 in (5 cm) shorter than they were in their prime, and women as much as 3.15 in (8 cm) shorter.
Women shrink more than men because levels of the female hormone estrogen — which helps protect bone health in men and women — fall rapidly at the menopause. Men also tend to have more muscle, which supports their frame.

i was not encouraged by this at all…
in fact this is another topic
d and i discuss-
how lucky men are to have
this high metabolism
while women just look at food
and POOF -fat!
but when it comes to hands
we both agree
ours are aging
at about the same rate…
holding my husbands hand
is just as important to me
as telling him i love him…
i know i can reach for him
and he will always be there…
and as Sam from Sleepless in Seattle
so elegantly said,

“It was like coming home, only to no home I’d ever known. I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was…magic”