on marriage at nautilus teachings

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NONE
of us are
PERFECT.
living with
someone you love
for decades
will prove to be
a challenge at times…
at least with our children
they grow up
move out
and live their own life,
but marriage is different…
we all start out
madly in love
there are times
when we are
just
in love
or feel love…
sometimes,
we just like them.
lets not forget
those occasional
times when we feel
moments of possible
hate, dislike, disappointment
and even the rare
question to ourselves,
“why did i marry this moron?!!!”
this is normal
in all relationships
and when we are going
through a rocky period
listening to their
demands
needs
wants
when we gracefully
take their ‘to do’ list
and help out
or keep silent
when they yell
because we know
they had a bad day
and deserve
a mulligan…
we still
LOVE them!

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just, at this moment
we are not so sure
we actually
LIKE them…
this is not unusual at all
because we,
ourselves
can be
unlikeable
grumpy
bossy
controlling
and downright
mean…
we are all
human!
this is why we need
to be able to
give moments of grace
to wrap them
in our arms
when they are
being a pain in the buttocks
fix them a favorite meal
when we know
their day/week has been
challenging, long or frustrating
and why
above all
we must
learn
the beauty
of silence,
of not caring
what they put on the tv
at night
or if we have to
pick up their dishes
and fetch their beverages
we do it all
out
of
LOVE
even
when we
are not so
feeling the love
we
are
kind…

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when i am feeling this way
i distance myself
i sleep a bit later
go to bed earlier
and limit
conversation
with the one i love
to protect them
from myself…
d and i have an agreement
if one of us is feeling
“OFF”
we let the other one know…
this is our sign to
back off
or an argument
may happen…
i love this
because we are admitting
to the one we love
we are flawed…
we also have an
“i love you, but…”
box…
it’s a safe place to write
a short statement
about what
has maddened us…
‘i don’t like it when
you treat me like a child…’
‘your words last night
hurt me…’
simply put
it allows each one of us
the chance to
think, pause, pray
before we speak…
the goal in life
is to be happy
TOGETHER!
so, love the one
you’re with
be silly
play together
and in those moments
of wanting to
tear their eyes out
or hit them in the arm
remember the famous quote,
by Will Rogers…
“never miss a good chance
to shut up!”

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